Too Embarrassed to Ask?

For many women, the area "down there" is a bit of a mystery, and a big reason is that our most personal questions can be hard -- or just too embarrassing -- to ask our doctors. Most people think other people are having more sex than they are. In truth, the only people having a whole lot of sex are those in that dizzying first phase of romantic love when you are literally drugged by your own hormones and just can't keep your hands off each other.

There's an old saying that goes, "Before you get married, put a bead in a big jar everytime you have sex. Soon you will fill the jar. After you get married, take a bead everytime you have sex. You will NEVER empty that jar". Scientifically, the reason this is true is that when you move from the giddy throes of falling in love to the comfy Sunday-morning-with-pancakes-and-the-paper stage of a relationship, a different hormone takes over.

You don't get a rush of adrenaline and other inner opiates that makes you crave a sexual encounter anymore. What you do get is a steady stream of the "bonding" hormone oxytocin. (It's the same one that pumps copiously when a woman is in labor or breastfeeding ) In other words, the neighbors probably aren't doing it any more than you are if you've been together for a while - and that's just fine.

This is the time when we remembers our duties and fulfilled them. A time for spring cleaning, taking out the laundry, doing the lawn, getting the windows cleaned, the curtains washed -- the rush of adrenaline comes in a different form -- in the form of commitment ,bounded by money. Another rush of adrenaline when we suspected that we might be pregnant. I haven't had my period for the last month -- I was kind of late......

Then the rush of adrenalin , when  my husband comes home, is the food ready? Are the children Okay? The tension of being questioned and the hurt of been deprived a trust, on the contrary, it's just a question out of curiosity or even a bribe! Most people don't like to be questioned , but sentimentally , why don't you take a look -- for yourselves -- the table's been set, the baby's not crying, the house is beautifully cleaned!!!! Am I just a freako with an anxious mind or are you that nut who doesn't know how to converse a statement of virtue such as, 'it's good!'~~